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Post by wottesworthsgurl on Sept 7, 2009 20:23:56 GMT -5
So..are you adoptive or not? I myself am and have been looking for my mom for several years..Not over yet though keep the hope alive eh? So how many siblings do you have? I got 2 adoptive brothers 1 from boliva other from Spain..my family is quite intersting lol and sorry for the spelling errors I'm not used to touch screens! That's all I have to say yep..
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Post by wottesworthsgurl on Sept 7, 2009 21:11:34 GMT -5
Yes worts the game makes me so effin angry feel like killing the tv screen not 2 mention already broke one controll haha when those stupid scouts backstab you it makessss you so angry right you aren't the only one and not to mention when an arxhr headshoots you so annoying oh n not even going to mention those mages phew and the warrior and there stupid combos is tsk hah..church tommrow bye wortts
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Post by ouphe on Sept 7, 2009 21:20:41 GMT -5
I think you misplaced the above reply D:
as for the thread-topic, am nooot adopted & am an only child. I have two half-brothers but the youngest is ten years older than me, so I barely know them.
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Post by redwurd on Sept 7, 2009 21:38:46 GMT -5
Hey Wottes! missing you around Middle Earth ={, but I suppose school is kinda important? lol Um it sounds like your family is pretty cool & unique.
I hope you do find your birth mother, and you get what your looking for.
I am not adopted, but eh, lets just say my family puts the FUN in dysfunctional! Terribly long and boring story....... I am the youngest of 5 kids: 3 brothers (I guess that's where I partly learned to fight & give em hell!), and 1sister, from immigrant parents that left Germany in the 1950's.
Don't quite know what to make of your other posting, but I give ya points for creative ramblings! You are lovably madly brilliant Wottes, kinda like the little sister I never had but always wanted! =D
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Post by wottesworthsgurl on Sept 8, 2009 17:42:34 GMT -5
Awww baby redwurd I miss you too, always room for me next summer?
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Post by BulgarianMenace on Sept 8, 2009 18:04:44 GMT -5
imo your real mother is the one that raised you.
Too much emphasis is put on blood. The definition of mother, for me, is more centered around the person that cared for you and nurtured you as you grew up. It just happens to coincide that that person is usually the one who gave birth to you.
I don't understand why you want to find someone (you even use the word "hope") when that person didn't want you and isn't trying to find you. Then again, I am not adopted so I can't relate directly to what you're experiencing, but it just doesn't seem logical to me.
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Post by BURNZILLA47 on Sept 8, 2009 18:34:23 GMT -5
I agree with BM 100% on that point. The quest for their blood relatives is something most adoptive children will turn their attention to at some point in their lives. I think there is a natural human instinct to know where and who exactly you came from and sometimes a passion for something and instinct can override logic.
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Post by wottesworthsgurl on Sept 8, 2009 19:03:03 GMT -5
Omg don't get me wrong my aps mean everything to me but still conquest is full..
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Post by yash3ahuja on Sept 8, 2009 22:26:47 GMT -5
Bm very good point. The definition of parents should be the one who cares for you and nurtures you. Why search for the person who left you?
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Post by redwurd on Sept 8, 2009 23:18:16 GMT -5
Answers? Closure? Medical Information? Finding out if you have any other siblings out in this great big world?
There is a whole gamut of emotions involved. I agree with BM (ya I know!), BURNZ & Yash with their opinions that yes your adoptive parents ARE IN FACT YOUR PARENTS! They chose you! Just because there is a sperm donor & a birth mother out there does not qualify them as parents.
If you do actually find your birth mother, I hope that you get whatever you need from her, be it answers or even a relationship of some sorts. It is whatever is good for you Wottes!
Hey ya in the market for a big sis? =D
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Post by yash3ahuja on Sept 8, 2009 23:26:40 GMT -5
Also red, not all moms really ditch you. I hate to break it to wott, but she could be dead. That or she was unable to afford to feed her, and wanted to make sure she found a family that coups feed her. Ask your parents wott
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Post by wottesworthsgurl on Sept 9, 2009 6:01:16 GMT -5
Yeah I know they're my parents I'm not trying to replace them or anything just mom got baby at young age eh
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Post by hanzrimer on Sept 9, 2009 11:25:41 GMT -5
If I were adopted I'd totally want to find my real Mother, not sure why anyone would think that is weird...
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Post by BulgarianMenace on Sept 9, 2009 11:28:49 GMT -5
why would you want to, and how is she really your mother beyond the fact that she gave birth to you? IMO she lost her status as "mother" when she abandoned the child, even if was for a "legitimate" reason (like being young and not having money).
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Post by rizen33 on Sept 9, 2009 12:12:43 GMT -5
So..are you adoptive or not? I myself am and have been looking for my mom for several years..Not over yet though keep the hope alive eh? So how many siblings do you have? I got 2 adoptive brothers 1 from boliva other from Spain..my family is quite intersting lol and sorry for the spelling errors I'm not used to touch screens! That's all I have to say yep.. Very interesting situation. I can sympathize, but certainly not empathize with your situation. By this I mean, I can imagine what it may be like, but certainly wouldn't know what you're going through. Regardless, I'm really glad to know that you have wonderful and probably loving family (many people even with biological family members don't even have the type of ideal relationship you have with your foster family). Although we can make speculations about the reason your mother gave you up for adoption, ultimately nobody knows for certain. Another possibility, she could have been really young as you said (therefore may have not had the resources available to take care of you), and decided it may be best and ultimately for your own good that another family raises you (so indirectly her decision may have been a loving act). I wish and hope you the very best in whatever you decide to do. As a last resort, be a guest on the Maury Povich show, he typically helps people in your same situation!
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